To Spank or Not to Spank?

So a couple of months ago a good friend of mine from college, who also happens to be one of my favorite gay friends (which will prove to be vital information as your read forward) asked me to consider blogging about spanking, specifically getting slapped on the ass during sex. He asked "whats up with the spank on the ass in pornos when doing it doggie style... its never happened to me, you?" For myself, I can say a smack on the ass is not a regular part of my sex life but in the interest of doing thorough research, I decided to ask my friends: straight, gay, and bisexual alike and this is what I got.

When you look at porn, girls get spanked on the ass all the time and they seem to like it. I mean their asses are bright red and marred with hand prints and yet they are still moaning and groaning over it. If it were me I wouldn't be able to sit down the next day my ass would be so bruised. As I said, a smack on the ass is not really my thing. So, I am thinking about this from my heterosexual vision of porn I am thinking that well yeah, girls get smacked on the ass all the time when they are getting it from behind and then it dawns on me... This is a gay man who is asking me this question, and when do I have this epiphany... when I am having sex with my husband. Yup right there in the middle of having sex I stop and go "OH MY GOD NOW I GET WHAT HE MEANT" (specifically the "its never happened to me, you?" part). Yup that's was me. Genius! At least I wasn't doing it doggie style at the time, I think I would have went running out of the room. I find it even funnier given the relationship this friend has always had with my husband. I guess you kind of have to be in the "know" to get that one. My husband of course, just to be an jerk, spanked my ass the next time we did it doggie style and asked how my research was coming. What an ass.

Back to the question... to spank or not to spank? For me I say no. I don't need my ass spanked during sex thank you very much. My husband will spank it on occasion when I am walking around out of nowhere, or we will spank each other to piss each other off. Spanking during sex is not something that I need, quite frankly I don't need a red ass, and I don't need my husband's hand imprinted on my ass.

OK as I said my experience with porn is straight porn, but in those porns those women's asses are bright red, so I am assuming in gay porn the same in true of the men's asses. If I am wrong please feel free to correct me but being a mom with two small children and limited time to have sex/ watch porn for my own pleasure I am not trying to find time to check out a gay porn. Sorry guys.

So off to the peanut gallery to see what they think...

Sassy Pineapple (straight single female)- To spank. Not terribly surprising... so then I ask "to spank all the time of just some of the time." she smiled coyly and replied, "all the time".

Pipes (straight married female)- So we are out for drinks when I present the question to her "To spank or not to spank?". She looks at me across the table like I am crazy and says "Are you for real? Don't spank me, I don't need to be spanked on the ass. If anyone is going to be doing the spanking it is going to be! Verdict?... Not to Spank

From my gay friends that I asked I got mixed reviews. Clearly my friend who asked the question is not down with the spanking, but my other friends were a mixed bag. One friend I am going to call Happy E said he only had one boyfriend that wanted to spank so that was when I did it. So I guess Happy E is a spanker when asked and will be spanked when requested. He is so versatile.

When I asked my bisexual and lesbian friends their responses was again mixed. One friend, the original margarita Thursday gal, commented on grabbing versus spanking saying that she loves to grab an ass or have hers grabbed instead of spanked. (Interestingly my husband also said he would rather grab my ass than spank it and that works for me)

So the general consensus is that it is up to you. If you like to get spanked get spanked and if you don't don't, and if you like to get spanked with certain people and not with others then more power to you. "To spank or not to spank?" At the end of the day it is a personal question, my ass, I don't want it spanked, grab it all you want, but don't spank it.